Continue in App Continue in App

continue to mobile site

Sleep: Baby's First Year

Caroline A.
CAROLINE A.
Certified Child Sleep Consultant
Fill 1 Created with Sketch. Fill 1 Created with Sketch. Fill 1 Created with Sketch. Fill 1 Created with Sketch. Fill 1 Created with Sketch.

Baby keeping you up way past your bedtime (and beyond)? We've all been there. Luckily, some some quality R&R is still possible! Just ask our Tinyhood Sleep Expert, Caroline Adcock.

Show more
Caroline A. photo Group 2 Created with Sketch.
Have your own question?

Ask Caroline, our Certified Child Sleep Consultant!

Message Caroline
CAROLINE ADDED A NEW COMMENT!
Sleep issues
AVAH, PARENT OF 3 YEAR OLD

My almost 8 month old son will not sleep on his own he used to take naps during the day, but it has gotten to the point where he will not sleep unless I am wearing him. He rarely naps during the day, if he does it’s no longer than 20 minutes. I know he needs to naps because his eyes get all read and puffy, he’s more fussy and will rub his eyes. He needs to breastfeed to fall asleep, which is fine if I can get him to sleep on his own. I need him on a schedule (he wakes up and goes to bed on his own time) and I need him to sleep independently at least for nap time. Please help!

Caroline
CAROLINE

Hi Avah! Yes, you are correct, your son needs at least 2 naps at regular times at this age during the day for a total of 3-5 hours of day sleep. It sounds like he developed the need for you to wear and/or nurse him so he is able to go to sleep. In order to get him to sleep independently, you would need to break this cycle by teaching him self-soothing skills. An appropriate nap schedule and sleep training will remedy your son's problems.

CAROLINE ADDED A NEW COMMENT!
Help!
LINDA, PARENT OF 3 YEAR OLD, 19 MONTH OLD, 7 MONTH OLD

Soooo.... our daughter, 7 months old, just transitioned to sleeping in her crib, in her own room (from our room)... she used to be good about going to bed by 7:30... but these days she cries and cries until 9:30... after we tried everything: boob, story time, bouncing, patting, shushing... everything. We also just started with a new nanny who has been helping us ensure she sticks to her nap schedule during the day: 2x... one in the am and the other in the afternoon. Could it be separation anxiety, too much change..? My husband seems to think separation anxiety because she pulls to me when I walk into the room. Any tips to help with her transition? Sooooo tired SOS!

LINDA

Oh and she has been fighting a cold and may be cutting a tooth / teething. She also has been sleeping until 6am after us working to get rid of the 4am feeding... but now our sweet daughter wakes up as a crying zombie at 3am. Thoughts? 😂💤😫 sleep regression as she works on crawling / mobility and is trying to pull up on things...? So many factors

Caroline
CAROLINE

Hi Linda! Sounds like you have a lot going on! If the issues are more recent, the cold could well be the culprit. Teething usually only causes an issue on those 2-3 nights/days when the tooth is cutting through, some babies never experience any issues with it at all. Working on a new skill like crawling, sitting up, walking, talking are all common sleep disruptors, even in children that have established good self-soothing skills. If she previously went to bed independently without needing you to get her to drift off to dreamland (by rocking, nursing/feeding etc), then the disruptions you are experiencing are due to either the cold or her working on the new skill. If it was always on you to get her to fall asleep, even if that was something that only started fairly recently but continues to go on, then the issue goes a little deeper and she likely has a sleep association and possibly a schedule mismatch which need to be addressed.

LINDA

Ok helpful thank you!

CAROLINE ADDED A NEW COMMENT!
8 month sleep regression
JENNIFER, PARENT OF 3 YEAR OLD

My son is just over 8 months old. He had been sleeping through the night since 12 weeks but now seems to be hitting his 8 month sleep regression. He wakes up in the middle of the night whimpering and practicing trying to crawl (on all 4s rocking back and forth). We’ve tried everything to get him to go back to sleep but he is usually up for 2 hours. What do we do!?! Thank you!!

Caroline
CAROLINE

Hi Jennifer! That's a tough one because you obviously want your child to get the rest he needs but at the same time there's not much you can do. I would definitely discourage you from going in too much and trying to get him back to sleep. For one, as you have already realized, there isn't much you can do that gets him back to sleep. And furthermore, you need to avoid creating a habit of him getting used to you guys coming in. So unless this behavior is due to a mismatched schedule resulting in the waking- and I believe you pegged it right for it showing up because he is working on a new skill- I would suggest you do nothing and wait until it's over. If you can, try to offer him an earlier bedtime for a while to make up for the lost night sleep.

JENNIFER

Thank you Caroline for your suggestions!

CAROLINE ADDED A NEW COMMENT!
3-month-old not sleeping a wink
JOY, PARENT OF 3 YEAR OLD

My baby is three months old and this is total craziness! Will it ever get better?

Caroline
CAROLINE

Hi Joy! Can you give me a few more details so get a better idea of what's going on?

Caroline
CAROLINE

Even w/o knowing any specifics, I can say yes, hang in there, it will!!! The first year is right up there competing to be the most physically exhausting- probably not only for you but baby, too! Just think about the transformation a child goes through from being born and unable to do much anything for him or herself and being one and able to communicate/ walking or being on the brink of walking etc. If a baby doesn't sleep well beyond the age of 5-6 months, it's a good call to teach him or her how to sleep well. Not only for your sake but because research shows that if left untreated, sleep problems in children don't resolve on their own until the child is 4-5 years old if they ever just spontaneously go away. Sleeping is a biological need though and without it, the child (and you!) don't only feel worse than you would with appropriate sleep, a slew of bad health outcomes and behavioral issues can now be traced back to it.

CAROLINE ADDED A NEW COMMENT!
Nap schedule
OLIVIA, PARENT OF 3 YEAR OLD

So I've read up on the topic. I'm a stay-at-home-parent and if I follow the recommendations regarding naps, etc. it seems that I can never leave the house again in the forseeable future!

Caroline
CAROLINE

I know how you feel! Let me start by saying this phase won't last forever. If you can do it, try to meet your child's sleep needs as best as you can. I usually go by the 80-20 rule, meaning that if you can be consistent at least 80% of the time, both you and your child will be better off:your child will be better rested and his or her whole day will be more predictable, which in turn will make your day more predictable. Before you know it, he or she will be down to one or no nap.