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Caroline A.
CAROLINE A.
Certified Child Sleep Consultant
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Wakes up at same time each night
APRIL, PARENT OF 3 YEAR OLD

My daughter is 16 months and used to sleep completely throughout the night. For the past 3 weeks she's been waking up around 3am and doesn't want to go back to sleep. Her sleep schedule is usually the same. She takes her nap at the same time everyday, 12:30 and stays down between 2-3 hrs. The only variable are her morning naps. When she hasn't slept throughout the night, she may take a morning nap for up to an hr. I'm tired and don't know what to do at this point.

Caroline
CAROLINE

There could be several reasons for this, overtiredness and developmental changes are the most common. Make sure she goes to bed about 4.5 hours after the end of her nap, don't create any incentives that could make it interesting for her to be up or start habits that she starts to rely on to go back to sleep. Good luck!

APRIL

Ok, thank you. What should I do when she wakes up in the middle of the night? Should I just let her self soothe? How long should I let her cry?

Caroline
CAROLINE

You can either leave her be completely or check on her briefly without much engagement (no touching, picking her up etc).

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Rolling over in bed
MEGHA, PARENT OF 2 YEAR OLD

My 5 month old was struggling with sleep for a while but it started to improve. He just entered his 5th developmental leap so is a bit more clingy and cries at night. He sleeps pretty well from 7p-4a with 1 or 2 feeds during that time. Around 4:30a he wakes and is hard to put back down. He falls asleep in my arms but then wakes when I put him down. I left him alone last night to see if he’s self sooth back to sleep but he just rolled over and started to cry because he couldn’t roll back. That hour is really hard - if he could sleep til 6a I wouldn’t feel the need to even sleep train honestly because he’d grow out of the feeds and then just naturally sleep.... any advice on the 4-6a window?

Caroline
CAROLINE

Hi Megha! As I said in previous replies, the recent disruptions in sleep environment alone can have an effect on his ability to sleep. Just give it time and don't let him fall asleep in your arms. If you're not ready for him to be up at 4am, then leave him be until 6am.

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Sleep..
ERIN

My son is 4 months old and he eats cereal and formula. And spits up constantly. His doctor says he is healthy and happy. He naps 3 times daily and he always wants to stay up til 3. He cries while he is up that late. I do not know what I am doing wrong? I try to swaddle him and stuff but it doesn't work at all. I have to walk around the house while I feed him. Every feeding! Then he falls asleep. What can I do to get sleep and errands done!? He is teething as well. He weighs 17lbs. And he kills my back.

Caroline
CAROLINE

Hi Erin! Sorry about your back. At four months you can try to get him into a nap schedule of 9/12:30/3 (catnap). Try to get him down within 1.5 hours of waking up from his 3rd nap and see if this helps. Also, the AAP discourages swaddling once a child is 8 weeks old or can roll over, whichever comes first.

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Very Active 8 week-old Twins
CHELSEA

How can I get my twins on the same sleeping schedule so that they dont wake up consecutively behind each other, keeping up awake for longer strectches???

Caroline
CAROLINE

Hi Chelsea! One way to achieve this over time is to always wake the sleeping twin up when the other one wakes up.

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7 month old wakes at night
EMERALD

Hi! My baby goes to sleep well initially, but wakes at 12 and 3, sometimes times in between. When he wakes at 3 it’s very hard to get him back to sleep, and I can’t seem to lay him back down in his crib, he just wakes up from that point on. We have tried letting him cry, but he will just crawl around in his crib and continues to cry for hours.

EMERALD

He also doesn’t seem to know how to self soothe and relax and put himself to sleep, instead as time goes on he gets more and more worked up, then it’s really hard to get him back to sleep even with my help.

Caroline
CAROLINE

If you feel like he's lacking self soothing skills, than it's time to sleep train (provided your son is at least four months old).

Caroline
CAROLINE

yes, just seeing that you put the age in there ;-) 7 months is a good age to teach self soothing skills.

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5 1/2 month old wakes up multiple times/night
L, PARENT OF 2 YEAR OLD

Hi! So I don’t really have an issue putting her down. I put her in the crib when she is awake and I let her cry, come back in after 1-2 minutes and rub her back and put the pacifier back in her mouth and she falls asleep. My issue is, during the night she wakes up multiple times and wants her pacifier. So I’ve been going in her room and putting it back in her mouth because I feel bad letting her cry when all she wants is her pacifier and can’t find it when she is half asleep- that being said I can’t do it anymore...I’m exhausted. When she was 3 months old she was sleeping from 10-8 no problems at all for a few weeks. Now it’s been like this for about a month and a half. Thank you so much!!

Caroline
CAROLINE

Hi L! Sounds like she's developed a sleep association with you giving her the pacifier. The only way to break this association is not giving it to her anymore. This will most likely result in protest but this should only be temporary if you stick to your guns and let her figure it out for herself.

L

Thank you so much. I should just let her cry and not go in at all tonight?
Stop cold turkey? I’m fine doing that just want to make sure. Is there a
certain amount of time I should let her cry for or is there no limit? Thank
you!

Caroline
CAROLINE

Not limiting it tends to be the fastest way for them to learn it.

L

Do you recommend me taking the pacifier away all together or just not going
in there to put I.T back in her mouth and she’ll have to find I.T herself
eventually?

Caroline
CAROLINE

if it was me I’d take it away completely and be done with it

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5.5 month sleep changes? Help!
LAUREN, PARENT OF 2 YEAR OLD, 2 YEAR OLD

My 5.5 month old had been a champion sleeper until last week. She had been taking 2-3 naps (~1 hour each) with no problem, and sleeping 7:30pm-7am with no wakeups in her own room. She had a cold early last week and even though she's now totally healthy it's like she forgot how to sleep! Yesterday's naps were an hour each of her crying in her crib. It's taken her longer to settle to go to bed at night, but falling asleep hasn't been much problem - but then she has woken up every night around 2 or 3 am and been up for 2-3 hours at a time, fussing the whole time. It's like she startles herself awake and she's forgotten how to settle herself down. We give her at least 10 minutes to try to self-soothe before checking on her. Changing her diaper, nursing, rubbing her belly - they all comfort her for a little while but as soon as we leave the room she fusses again. We have no issue letting her cry it out but even so, it has taken her hours to finally settle. I see the outline of her two bottom teeth so I'm guessing those will be poking thru soon - but she's perfectly content when she's awake and doesn't seem to be in pain. Any advice??

Caroline
CAROLINE

Hi Lauren! How have you responded during that time when she was sick? While it's absolutely ok to shift gears a little when they are sick, sometimes (and I see that she's still in the danger zone of the 4 months sleep regression) they pick up on outside soothing that they want to be continued long after they are healthy again. So if you are confident that she's ok again, it's time to (re)teach her self-soothing skills.

LAUREN

We responded to her more frequently for the two nights when she was sick, checking on her immediately rather than waiting for her to self-soothe. We've been giving her lots of time to calm herself down the past few nights when she's been healthy but she seems to just be resisting it HARD. And man, I was hoping we were outside of the danger zone for the 4-month sleep regression, how long does that tend to take to pass?

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Baby does not sleep in his crib..
R, PARENT OF 2 YEAR OLD

Hi, our one year old does not sleep in his crib, cries a lot, is totally fine when we pick him up and bring him to our bed. However, we are afraid of him falling so we end up taking turns sleeping with him on a mattress on the floor. we don't want to have him cry it out. Are there any other solutions to get him to sleep in his crib?

Caroline
CAROLINE

Hi R! Yes, you can use timed check or the chair method as well. All sleep training methods will result in some crying though, so be prepared!

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Schedule and Nursing
BETH, PARENT OF 2 YEAR OLD

I recently started "sleep training" my 6 month old with the Happy Sleeper "Sleep Wave" technique and it has worked great. He goes to sleep at 6 PM then wakes up at 11 PM and 2 AM to nurse for 5 minutes, which I am in the (early) stages of weaning 30 seconds every other day.

The book says that you can get the baby up after 11 hours, so a 6 PM bedtime means I get him up at 5 AM if he gets up. However, He's been waking up a third time at 4 AM, and I found that if I nurse him for a long time, he will often sleep until 7.

Am I doing the right thing by allowing him this long feeding at 4 AM when my goal is to not feed at night anymore? My current plan is to wean the 2 AM feeding and then the 11 PM feeding first.

Caroline
CAROLINE

Hi Beth! I am not familiar with the sleep wave technique, but I generally suggest to push the first feeding to past 12 am. I would also encourage to not get him up at 5 am as to not create a habit of a pre-6am wake-up. Only because the book says you can get him up doesn't mean you have to ;-)

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5.5 Month Old Doesn't Sleep
MAGGIE, PARENT OF 2 YEAR OLD

My baby literally hasn't slept well since about 8 weeks old. She was sleeping great up until that point and even through the night. Everyone tells me that it's her developmental leaps, but it hasn't stopped since she was a newborn. We always start her off in her crib at night but she wakes about every hour. We will wait until she's really crying to go in there and offer her comfort. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. We've hired a sleep consultant that laid out a very detailed sleep plan and we've been following that for a month with no real results. I think the longest she slept was 5 hours which is great, but that was a one-time thing. We've tried Cry it out, but she is persistent and either doesn't fall asleep (2 hours of crying) or cries until she falls asleep and then sleeps for 15 minutes. I absolutely hate cry it out and it seem like the least effective method for my little tricky sleeper. Needless to say, she sleeps in bed with us now and sleeps great, but this isn't ideal. Any advice?

Caroline
CAROLINE

Hi Maggie! Without doing a full intake it's hard for me to give targeted advice. There are more methods available than full on CIO, but all will involve some crying. Two of the most crucial elements in sleep training are consistency and an age-appropriate schedule. We do offer more comprehensive plans that allow us to dig deeper and find personalized solutions if you are interested.