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Courtney Z.
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Earlier bedtime for 3.5 month old
LAURA, PARENT OF 3 YEAR OLD, 6 MONTH OLD

Our 14 week old falls asleep at 11pm (and thankfully sleeps until 6 or 7). We'd love to move her to an earlier bedtime but she wakes and cries if we put her down before 11. Last night she fell asleep at 10:45, but only because she dozed off nursing. How to help her fall asleep earlier without strengthening the feeding/sleep connection?

Courtney
COURTNEY

Hi Laura,

Start with a routine that triggers bedtime. (Bath, pj's, nursing, just not to sleep, a book, then bed.) That helps them begin to understand sleep is coming. Get room darkening curtains, no night lights. 7am waking, 7pm bedtime. No naps at this age after 5:15pm for a 7:00 bedtime. This helps align the day. 3-4 total hours of sleep during the day.
Overtired kids often become hyper and portray being awake. At this age, a baby needs a total of 16 total hours of sleep a day to feel refreshed.

Also, the nursing to sleep is going to be your largest challenge. Nurse, just not to sleep, place the baby in the crib without being over tired, and allow them to fall asleep naturally. Also, check out the Merlin Sleepsuit, very helpful in this situation. The nursing association won't go away, you need to change that habit or you will struggle with them learning the skill of sleep until it finally becomes enough. Hope this helps get you on your way.

I have been sharing this blog, it's relevant for you as well! https://journal.thriveglobal.com/is-2017-the-year-for-your-baby-to-sleep-bbbc383c4a9e#.p0iz1wk89

EMILY

Your article is very helpful! One question, should it also be fully dark in their room when they go down for a nap? Thanks!

Courtney
COURTNEY

yes, there will be a little natural light but still close the curtains, no lights on.

REBECCA

Hi Courtney,

My situation is very similar to Laura's. Our little one is exactly 3mo old today. We have been putting her on the feeding schedule of either 6-10-2-6-10 or 7-11-4-7-11. We don't put her down until after the 10 or 11pm feeding and she can fall asleep naturally (with a paci tho). But the problem is she wakes up during the night 1-3 times, even though most of the time she can fall back to sleep once we give her the paci, there have been times when she wakes up at 4ish and would not stop crying, so I had to feed her and the whole schedule is messed up. We also would like to move her to an earlier bedtime. What would be the best to do in my situation? Also, she has to be held and can't fall asleep naturally for naps during the day. What should we do? Thanks in advance!

Courtney
COURTNEY

Hi Rebecca, the schedule looks good. The Merlin sleep suit will likely help. Also, ensure she's not over tired when you try to put her down earlier. That will cause crying and frustration. Schedule for that age would be something like this:

6:15am Wake up, breast or bottle
8:00am – 8:45am Nap #1 for 45 minutes
10:45am-11:45am Nap #2 for 1 hour
1:15pm-2:45pm Nap #3 for 90 minutes
4:45pm – 5:05pm Nap #4 for 20 minutes
6:30 pm Bedtime routine to begin
7:00 pm Bedtime

Focus on total daytime sleep of about 4 hours vs set schedule as they don't consolidate naps at this age. Also, giver her 10-12 minutes to settle before going in, as studies show it takes the brain that long to settle for any age after being woken up. Sometimes we jump in too quick and don't give them the chance to learn.

REBECCA

So if we follow this nap schedule, when would the feedings be at?

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Toddler night wakings?
SARAH, PARENT OF 4 YEAR OLD, 5 MONTH OLD

My daughter is 16 months old. At home, she sleeps roughly 7 pm to 6 am, then takes two naps around ~9:30 am and ~2 pm, usually totaling about 2.5 hrs. She goes into her crib awake and started sleeping through the night with gentle coaching around 9 months, but in the last couple of months, she has started waking at night maybe 40-50% of the time, and if she really wakes up -- that is, doesn't just grumble for a few minutes and fall back asleep -- she's often awake for an hour or so. I go in only if she's really wailing to check and console, but generally don't pick her up, and it doesn't seem to impact how quickly she falls back asleep either way. This coincided with her increasing mobility, but I think that the problem is also exacerbated by her new daycare schedule: this month, she went from two full days to two full days plus two mornings, and on those days, she usually only takes one nap (roughly 11:45-12:45) and then I put her down at 6:30 pm to help her try to catch up a little. She won't usually sleep later in the morning, but does end up taking monster naps (totaling 3+ hrs daytime sleep) on days she's home, where she has her own dark, quiet room to sleep in vs. the big, light, kid-filled space at school. I know kids survive this all the time and she doesn't generally seem unhappy, but mama has a full-time job and could really use continuous sleep again! Any ideas? Thank you!

Courtney
COURTNEY

Hello Tired Momma!!

Just a quick clarification to ensure I give the best advice, when you say two full days plus mornings, what does that mean? Is she at school from 7:30 - 5:00pm for example? Are they doing a room nap after lunch for several hours? The nap seems short at school, is that just because she wakes or a different schedule they have them on?

SARAH

On Mon/Weds, she's in school ~7:45 am to noon and she takes one nap pretty much as soon as she gets home, usually ~90 minutes. On Tues/Thurs, she's at school 7:45 or so until 4:30 or 5 pm and takes one nap at school. The school does naptime right after lunch (11:45 am or noon) and many of the kids nap 2-3 hours, but she typically wakes up after 45-60 minutes and won't go back to sleep. (At home, she sleeps with a blackout shade and white noise, so I'm sure school is more exciting and I'm also guessing they're not keen on letting her yell while the other kids are sleeping.) They will offer her a morning nap at school if I ask, but she has always refused it, even when she's very tired.

Courtney
COURTNEY

Hi, sorry for the delay! Helping lots of mommies out here! Start with that forced 1 nap a day, both at school and home. After lunch to no later than 3:00. If she takes a terrible nap, you can put her down at 6:30, so you are doing it right there. If she REALLY has a bad day, put her down at 6 and see how she responds/wakes. Many night wakings are as a result of being over tired. Even putting her down at 6 she will still sleep the whole night and wake at the same time, but I am sure 6 isn't ideal as you want to see her. Just try and see response.

Daycare is hard because of the other kids and the noise. When she wakes in the night, you can do some gentle things, like go in and sit quietly, but don't engage her or pick her up. Rub her head for a second, tell her to relax it's night night then sit quietly until she's asleep. You can then slowly get further away from the crib until you are out the door.

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4 week old
LEIGH, PARENT OF 2 YEAR OLD

This may still be a little young to be asking this, but my husband and I are desperate for sleep! Our 4 week old baby has pretty much always only been able to sleep while in someone's arms. He'll sleep for 2-3 hours at a time, but never for more than 20 minutes at a time when he's in his Moses basket, pack n play, or crib. We got a rock and play a few days ago and the first two nights we had it, he slept for 2-3 hours straight in it--but then last night he kept waking up every 20 minutes again. What can we be doing to get him to sleep more continuously--is he just too young right now? He almost never falls asleep on his own while drowsy--Most of the time I nurse him to sleep or we bounce him to sleep on a yoga ball.

LEIGH

Sorry--I should clarify that he'll sleep 2-3 hours in someone's arms, but only 20ish minutes in his Moses basket, pack n play, or crib

Courtney
COURTNEY

Hi!

You are right in the thick of it, but now's a good time to start those healthy sleep habits. This is a great place to start, i just wrote this as I was recently there like you are, i have a 10 month old. https://journal.thriveglobal.com/is-2017-the-year-for-your-baby-to-sleep-bbbc383c4a9e#.hl7ufn962

For now, make sure the awake time is only 45 mins, so they aren't over tired. Try swaddling in crib with arms out, he may be a baby that is more comfortable that way. If he prefers elevation, add a towel UNDER the mattress in the crib, to elevate him a bit. See if any of this helps. Is he gassy or crying in discomfort. Many babies are very early on, so talk to ped about gas drops, they are a HUGE helper with the crying as their little stomachs are developing.

See if anything helps, let me know.


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Sleepwalking
CINDY, PARENT OF 9 YEAR OLD

My son who is 7 sleep walks every single night - usually 1-2 hours after he goes to bed. He get about 10-11 hours of sleep per night. He walks around the house, into our room and usually gets into our bed. How can I help him stop?

Courtney
COURTNEY

Hi, is he consciously aware and speaking to you to get into your bed or just 'zombie' like really unaware of his surroundings?

CINDY

He's a zombie totally unaware. As soon as he's in bed (ours or his) he's sound asleep.

Courtney
COURTNEY

I have to be honest, it's not something I am an expert on. In children I have worked with it was triggered by being over tired, but that doesn't appear to be the case here. Have you had him tested for sleep apnea? I know 7 is traditionally when they begin to 'grow out of it,' so hopefully it is something that is close to coming to an end. Was there a particular event that triggered it or stress that brought it on?

CINDY

No event - just during the summer it started. He seems to sleep fine and wakes up refreshed and ready to go. Hoping he''ll grow out if it soon!

Courtney
COURTNEY

I have reached out to some of the women in my national sleep association and many have suggested that over tired maybe a trigger for many cases. I would see about adjusting bedtime by 30 minutes earlier tonight and see if that impacts the wakings tonight.

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Sleep regression with a new baby in the house
ELISE

My two and a half year old has been struggling to sleep all night. He tries to stall at the beginning of the night and then gets up 1-3 times during the night. He also seems anxious about the dark and any noises. Any advice?

Courtney
COURTNEY

Hi, what are you doing to respond when he wakes? Is it just since baby came home? And what time is bedtime/naps today?

ELISE

Usually my son asks for his covers so my husband will go in and cover him back up. My son goes back to sleep then, but sometimes he's up a couple hours later. We start bedtime around 7 (2 stories, prayers, and tucking in - he is still in a crib) and he's down by 7:30. Naps are 1-3 at preschool during the week and about the same on the weekends (usually 12:30-2:30).

Courtney
COURTNEY

Ok, great news, schedule looks good. At this age, he may be feeling a bit 'left out' now that the new baby is there. I would suggest a reward chart w stickers, which if you send me your email I am happy to send you over. That may help him. Be clear though that you will not be coming in for the wakings. If he does wake and you go in, you tell him either he lays quietly or you (insert consequence)... but allow him to make the right decision. Max, you must lay quietly all night and not call for mommy, otherwise no sticker in the AM." Be firm with no sticker reward in the am... at this age, it's all about consequences.

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Two Year Old Night Terrors?
CHRISTINA, PARENT OF 5 YEAR OLD, 3 YEAR OLD

My two year old has been waking up in the middle of the night screaming. She is crying so hard she starts to gasp for breath. It is terrifying to watch and it is clear she is scared. Even when we try to console her, she fights us. She has never been a good sleeper and wakes up many times throughout the night even after sleep training and meeting with other sleep consultants. Most days she still takes two naps (which is crazy)- one around 11 and another around 4:30pm- and because of this late nap she doesn't go to sleep until 9- but sleeps until 9am. Is there any trick to help her regulate this screaming?

Courtney
COURTNEY

Hello, I am sorry, that must be scarey for you. In my experience, the night terrors are often a sign of over-tired and disappear when they are on the right schedule of daytime and nighttime sleep.

How much total sleep is she getting during the naps?

CHRISTINA

That is what I thought too! She seems to get a lot of sleep- she sleeps for an hour and a half in the morning approx. 11-12:30 and then her afternoon nap is 2 hours. 4:30-6:30ish. I know her timing is not great, and I ideally would love her to drop that late nap and go down earlier, but what ends up happening is she wakes much more frequently throughout the night if I don't let her take that late nap.

Courtney
COURTNEY

She is sleeping too much during the day, change the schedule. 7am wake 7pm bedtime, only 1 nap 12:30 - 2:30. Adjust slowly if that helps her. These may help, see attached!

CHRISTINA

Thanks! We will try that :)

Courtney
COURTNEY

Did the attachements come through? If not, please email me at info@tinytransitions.com and i will resend!

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Switching to one nap
MARIA, PARENT OF 3 YEAR OLD

Hi Courtney,
I need help trying to figure out my baby's sleep. She is almost 14 months and it seems like she may be switching to just one nap. Her behavior has been fairly inconsistent. She has been refusing her second nap for about a week now off and on, but it still seems like she is pretty tired in the morning around the time she usually gets her first nap. She will act very tired and put her head down alot to rest so I will read her a book and give her a bottle, but then the second I put her down in her crib she freaks out. She did not do this before. Even if she did not fall asleep right away, she would sit in her crib and talk to herself for a bit, but this complete aversion to the crib for naps is new. I just can't figure out when to put her down anymore. She used to get a nap at 10am and then around 3pm, and she would sleep for about 1 1/2 hours, second nap usually shorter. Now it's super inconsistent. One day she only napped for 20 minutes when she went down at noon! She has been extremely fussy in the evenings and we have had to put her down early on the days of missed naps. She used to go down at 8pm like clockwork, but lately it's has been at 7pm or even earlier and then she has been waking up in the middle of the night for a bottle. I am at a loss! Is all of this normal for a nap transition? We had such a good thing going and now every day is different and I don't know what to expect. Help!

Courtney
COURTNEY

Hi Maria, this is going to be a LONG response, but will tell you how to adjust, because I do believe it's time. Also, a bedtime of 7pm is actually what you want for this age!

The transition from 2 naps a day to 1 nap a day usually occurs sometime between 12 and 18 months for most babies. It can sometimes be difficult to tell when your baby is ready to make the switch from 2 naps a day to 1, and dropping a nap too soon can backfire and lead to an overtired baby and sleep issues at night. There are a few signs that can signal that your baby is ready to make that switch and drop a nap:
♥ Your baby might begin to sleep longer for their morning nap and shorten their afternoon nap.
♥ Some babies who are ready to make the switch will start to play in their crib for the afternoon nap, and either not fall asleep at all, or fall asleep too late in the day and need to be woken up in order to preserve bedtime.
♥ Occasionally it is the morning nap that becomes the challenge, while the afternoon nap lengthens.
♥ They might suddenly protest one of the naps and fuss or cry for much longer than normal, or they don’t sleep the entire time.
♥ These issues may not occur every day, but if you find that they are occurring most of the time (4 to 5 times a week), then it is likely time to make the switch!

The transition from 2 naps to 1 is one of the hardest transitions they will make, and it can take them a month or more to adjust to the change. In the beginning they might be overtired and do some short naps, making it harder to stretch to their normal bedtime. Bumping bedtime earlier might be necessary on occasion while they are adjusting. Although it can be challenging, and tempting to sometimes give them 2 naps again, it is best not to go back and forth between 2 naps and 1.
If your baby still seems tired at their normal naptime, just keep them busy. If your baby gets grumpy you can try distracting them by taking them outside, or by replacing the usual naptime with a snack time.

Making the Switch

STEP 1 – Start by moving your baby’s morning naptime later by half an hour (if they usually napped at 10:00 move it to 10:30), keep it at this time for 3 days and let them sleep as long as they like, do not wake them.
STEP 2 – Put your baby down for “quiet time” around 2:30 p.m. in order to take the edge off until bedtime. Leave them in their crib for an hour. They may not sleep, but at least will have some down time on their own. If they do fall asleep, wake them up by 4:00 p.m. at the latest so that bedtime is preserved.
STEP 3 – If your baby did not sleep during quiet time then you will need to move bedtime up as early as 6:30 p.m. to prevent them from becoming overtired.
STEP 4 – After 3 days move the morning nap later by another half hour (11:00 a.m.) for 3 days. Follow the same advice for the afternoon quiet time and bedtime.
STEP 5 – Move the morning nap later by another half hour (11:30 a.m.) for 3 days. There may not be time for afternoon quiet time at this point, and you will likely find your baby very difficult to deal with around the suppertime hour. Don’t be afraid to put them to bed early!
STEP 6 – Move naptime to 12:30 p.m., which might mean that lunchtime is now bumped up before the nap. It is normal for them to be very tired during lunch, they might even be nodding off the sleep while you try to get them fed!
Naptime will likely hover between 12:15 p.m. and 12:45 p.m. for several months before gradually being pushed back to 12:45p.m. Some toddlers stick with the earlier 12:30p.m. nap as their optimal naptime.
Be patient throughout the process, this is a tough transition and can take a month or more for them to properly adjust. The child should be going to bed somewhere between 6:30 p.m. and 7:30 p.m. during the transition period.
Transitions are always a little tough, but by following these guidelines, getting there should be a little smoother.

Hope this helps!!

MARIA

Hi Courtney,
This is super helpful. Thank you for the detailed response! I think I agree with you that it's time to switch to one nap. My only question is, for the hour of "quiet time", what do I do if she just cries and screams as soon as she is in her crib? Should I open the door to her bedroom so that she doesn't feel isolated? Do I need to be in the dark room with her? I'm not sure how to handle approach this Naptime that's not really a nap. Thanks again!
-Maria

Courtney
COURTNEY

You can sit next to her in a chair in the room, see if that calms her to sleep, or at that time you may need to work through additional options of gently teaching her to fall asleep on her own. That is where I support some clients, if you prefer to setup time and need the additional help and support.

Thanks,
Courtney

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Sleep
ANDREA, PARENT OF 17 YEAR OLD, 13 YEAR OLD, 5 YEAR OLD

My daughter will be 3 in March and she will wake up during the night everynigjt practically at least once or twice and cry or call for me . If I tell her I'm there (my bedroom is right next to hers) that doesn't usually work . She wants to have someone sleep with her, same w going to sleep at bedtime. She has a nightlight and stuffed animals to sleep with. She is mature and very verbal for her age.
My older daughter shares a room when she is there ( a few nights a week , split custody situation) and she sometimes tends to do better on these nights. When my 2 yr old daughter spends the night w her dad, she shares a bed with him as he only has a one room place which I feel like makes it more difficult at home then. I asked him to let her lie down herself to fall asleep at night When she is there but that doesn't help with night wakings. Any suggestions? Thank you!

Courtney
COURTNEY

The night wakings can be a sign of over-tired, so ensure a bedtime of 7pm. However, with children, it's cause and effect. If she cries, you come. If she protests you not laying, you lay. If she calls, you come. All these things teach her that if she does X, she gets X. Boundaries and rules for this age are where you need to make some changes. Always start that day by saying, tonight, mommy will lay for X minute with you, then I am leaving the room. You are to stay in bed until the morning. A reward chart helps with kids her age, rewarding the behavior with things like "you get to wear anything you want" or a sticker chart that leads to a bigger prize like a movie, ice cream...something that she values. In the middle of the night, you can respond, tell her it's bedtime, say something else and leave the room. If she continues to call for you, consequence the behavior. She needs to learn the rules, however you set them, and stick to them. Teaches boundaries as right now, she calls... you come, so why wouldn't you keep calling. Make sense?

ANDREA

Yes that makes sense , she does need an earlier bedtime , now it's not till about 830 and only about an hour nap usually during the day. I will establish a rewards system , like sticker chart. Thank you so much !

Courtney
COURTNEY

Yep, bed at 7, nap 12:30-2:30 or forced quiet time if she awakes!

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6 Month Old
ALLIE, PARENT OF 3 YEAR OLD

Hi, I have a 6 month old that has been exclusively breastfed, sleeps in her crib, and is the 50-75% for height and weight. Some nights she sleeps from 6:30pm-4:00am gets up to feed and goes back to sleep until 6:30am but other nights she goes down around 6:30pm/7pm and wakes up at 1am, 4am, and then 6am. When I go in to try and console her on one of these rough nights, she will scream bloody murder unless I nurse her. I have tried letting her cry it out but usually only let the crying last 10ish minutes before I give in because I feel bad. After 10 minutes I wonder if she is actually hungry and then feel bad if I don't get up. Is there anything I can do to try and make her sleep more regularly through the night? Should I just let her cry it out? I don't want her to become trained into thinking that is she cries and I go in, she will be nursed but for the sake of getting some sleep myself, I usually give in. My pediatrician said that BF babies can sleep 12 hours at this point with no food so I should just let her cry it out but I have had a hard time doing that. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks so much in advance!

Courtney
COURTNEY

Hi, it is hard but you are doing a great job. The challenge is your ped is correct, the food is habit at this point not nutritional. It takes a baby (same as adult) an average of 10-12 minutes to calm after waking. If you check in, or have your husband since the association is nursing, then leave the room and check in after 10-12 minutes, leave and repeat until asleep, the night wakings will subside in a matter of a handful of days if that. It's habit and they protest (cry) and know at 10 mins you nurse, so it teaches them to cry 10 mins and then get what I want. You can watch them, support them with gentle touch on checking in but I would stop the nursing at night. Good Luck!

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9 month old won't nap anymore
GAURIKA, PARENT OF 3 YEAR OLD

My 9 month old was taking 2 naps a day consistently with a 3 hr awake time and his first morning nap was 1.5-2 hrs, something I could relay on happening. But in the last few weeks leading up to his 9 month birthday he has been very difficult to put down for his first nap. I used to walk him to bed (before that it was nursing but I made an effort to stop that so he took to me walking him to bed. Bc this nap issue is getting difficult I decided a few days ago to not pick him up and walk him to sleep so that he can totally self soothe himself. This resulted in a lot of crying which still occurs but it is getting better and has really helped at night and he only wakes up to nurse 1-2 times and sleeps long stretches. If he wakes up at night I don't go in and he cries but then falls asleep pretty quickly. However the naps are different the naps are suffering and his nighttime sleep is getting better. Before his nighttime sleep wasn't so good he kept waking up but his naps were good. I just don't know what to do I've tried different awake times I've tried putting him down at 2 hrs, 2.5 hrs.. 2:45, 3 hrs nothing seems to work eventually it can take up to 4 hrs before he goes down, please help!

GAURIKA

I forgot to mention if I eventually pick him up he will fall right asleep - he's not being able to nap on how own without me picking him up although at night if I don't go in his cries but gets the message and goes right back to sleep. Why is the nap so hard and should I just hold him to sleep for the naps and continue the more strict approach at night which seems to be working at night but not during the day?

GAURIKA

I also forgot to mention that now recently for his first nap instead of sleeping the straight hour and a half after half an hour he wakes up and then I have to hold him and just kind of walk him around quickly back to bed.

Courtney
COURTNEY

Hello! You are doing a great job momma, just some things to help get him back on track. This one is a little more tough love. He knows eventually you will pick him up, so that's what he wants. He is forming that strong sleep association to you, what was the nursing, now the rocking or walking. They are all sleep props, which is what he need "to sleep." The act of doing something to get him to sleep. You need to take the same approach with naps you are at night and in a few days it will subside.

Schedule would be 10 and 2, with a 7am waking 7pm bedtime. The first few days, while he adjusting and will likely protest, lay him down 15 minutes early. This avoids him getting over tired.

Also, I would pull the night feeds all together, at his age, they are no longer nutritionally needed, they are now habit. Once you pull them, he will eat better and likely rest better during the day. At this age they start to get confused during the night wakings as to why this time you are getting fed and the other time you are letting him cry. You will see in a few nights he night wakings stop all together.

GAURIKA

Thanks so much! How come it's harder to get him down on his own during the day but then at night he'll cry and eventually just fall sleep on his own how come the days are harder than the nights? Because I'm doing the same thing during the day as I am during the night but during the day I have to cave-in because it doesn't work with him at night he'll eventually just go to sleep on his own. You don't think he's trying to transition his nap to one nap do you? He can go and hour before he goes to sleep even if I put him down at 2 1/2 hours or two hours and 45 minutes so he won't end up sleeping at 10, today he ended up sleeping closer to 11 I had to pick him up because he just wouldn't go down then he woke up half an hour after sleeping and then Tried to make him go to sleep on his own without going in but it didn't work and then the only way he would fall sleep is if I held him and he ended up falling asleep 20 minutes later and he just woke up at 1:45

Courtney
COURTNEY

You have to be consistent in the approach, and it getting him to nap in the car or on a walk is the only way to start ensuring he naps, start there. Then move on to the crib. But your response, then i go get him, is the trigger. He knows you will pick him up. I offer services that are gentle to help with this, if you wish to setup time to speak let me know.

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