I have a 20 month old son who has never been a great sleeper (he has some serious FOMO). He's always required us to pat him to sleep or bounce. He's a super light sleeper even with the sound machine so we have to be very quiet. His little sister is due in 3 weeks and we need to change some things up. He was doing fine with us sitting beside his crib until he fell asleep. Then he needed to be parted to sleep and now he needs held and bounced which is very hard on my pregnant belly! We used to bounce him for months and months until I finally weaned him at 15 months and had him sleep in a pack n play in our room. He's in his own room from 8-1am and then I usually bring him to our bed then which is going to be an issue with a crying newborn. I want him to fall sleep independently and through the night without our assistance. We've done the CIO method (which was awful) and the Ferber method which also didn't work because he would scream harder every time I left so sitting beside him has been the best method so far. I just want him to be on a good schedule so I can focus on one baby's sleep at a time! My husband works evenings so bedtime is up to me.
His schedule usually is
12-1am wakes up comes in bed with us (or just me usually)
11-12 nap (*maybe*)