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Vanessa V.
VANESSA V.
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Baby keeping you up way past your bedtime (and beyond)? We've all been there. Luckily, some some quality R&R is still possible! Just ask our Tinyhood Sleep Expert, Vanessa Vance.

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Naps and early wake up calls
BETHAN

My nearly 11 month old has never been a great sleeper and we do everything suggested. She sometimes will take 30 mins sleep total during the day. We have tried everything at day care and Home to get her to nap eg moving rooms, sound machines etc. She will spend some time moaning but we ignore her unless she is screaming. Some days she sleeps but others she doesn’t. Her latest is she wakes up between 4-4:30 every morning moaning. She never screams and I end up getting her up about 6-6:30. Any tips for this tired mama?

Vanessa
VANESSA

Hi Bethan,
Which sleep training method have you been using to teach your daughter to sleep? http://www.weebeedreaming.com/my-blog/sleep-coaching-methods You need to show her by responding the same way for over 2 weeks, then following the method consistently 80% after sleep training. For an 11 month old, when at home are you following the Crib 1.5 rule - let be designated crib time/rest time/ and nap if she chooses? Naps are typcially at 9 am and 12:30 -1 pm. Early bedtime of 5-5:30 pm when naps don't leave her well rested in the afternoon.

BETHAN

Extinction but she never cries but just moans. We know her pain cry for when she is teething so we go in and give her meds if she is due, then briefly settle her and place her back down. Most of the time she has no issues falling to sleep but when she wakes up she is awake. She Is placed down for a nap around 9:30-10 and 1-1:30. Eve if she doesn’t sleep we leave her in her crib so she is at least “resting”. We (daycare and us) have been doing the same thing with her for 2-3 months now. Some days she is a dream and will take a half an hour nap in the morning and a 1 1/2 nap in the afternoon but some days it’s barely anything. We never have a problem putting her down. She is usually awake after her bottle and is asleep within ten mins of self soothing. She can wake up in the night and out her self back to sleep butvthe 4-4:30 wake up moaning is stumping us.

Vanessa
VANESSA

https://community.babycenter.com/post/a50013541/types_of_cry Does the moaning match up with the mantra cry listed in this blog post? It is harder to transition the sleep cycles at the end of the night (4-5 am. it is common to have early morning wake ups b/c their sleep cup is full by the end of the night). Have you ever considered that the moaning is a self soothing noise?

Vanessa
VANESSA

Experiment with the naps at 9 and 1pm. You may be missing the hormonal sleep wave release from the melatonin that happens at those times. Without the hormone release, sleep is not as restorative.

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My 5 month old wakes up every hour
JESSICA, PARENT OF 2 YEAR OLD

My baby girl slept through the night from the day she was born until a few weeks ago. She’s had a cold for about 2 weeks and now she’s doing better and still waking up every hour or more. My son never slept and my fear was that she would be this way but now I’m working. She was a dream the first 4 months now I don’t know what to do.

Vanessa
VANESSA

Hi Jessica, Her brain advanced and now she needs you to do something different for her--teach self-soothing to her via sleep training. https://www.sleepbabylove.com/4-month-sleep-regression-suck/

http://www.weebeedreaming.com/my-blog/sleep-coaching-methods

Don't let your fear determine your future. If you consistently follow a sleep training method listed in the above blog post, you can teach your baby to sleep! Be consistent 80% of the time after training, too

Best of luck!

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One month old
ALYSSA MARIE, PARENT OF 2 YEAR OLD

My babygirl was sleeping a good 5-6 hours at night. And now is up every 2 hours but also doesn’t wanna go to sleep until 1 or 2am and scream her head off every time I try laying her down after she fell asleep in my arms.. then gets up every 2 hours to eat.. 😩 I need to get her on a schedule before I go back to work in two weeks

Vanessa
VANESSA

Hi Alyssa Marie,
At this age, the best thing to do is to manage and prevent the baby from becoming overtired. It is normal at this age to have days and nights confused. It is unlikely you will "get her on a schedule" at 6 weeks old. Good news is that nighttime sleep organizes and you will get a predictable 4-6 hour solid block of sleep from bedtime + 4-6 hours. Aim for a super early bedtime of 7-10pm; goal 8 pm. She sounds overtired. Try to offer naps every 1 hour she is awake = put her down for a nap after 60 minutes of awake time. http://www.mybabysleepguide.com/2013/02/average-sleep-charts-by-age.html. Dr. Harvey Karp has a great DVD about soothing and swaddling. Get lots of cuddles before you go back to work!

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When will he sleep?
MARISA, PARENT OF 2 YEAR OLD

My son is 2 months and exclusively breastfed, we have no schedule yet of any sort which may or may not be normal at his age but I’d love to have some sort of schedule so I can plan my day but more importantly a sleep schedule! Hes never slept for more than a couple of hours at a time at night and doesnt seem to be getting any better. I know breastmilk digests quickly but I feel like he should be doing longer stretches of sleep at this point. Every time I tell anyone how little he sleeps at night they’re shocked including his doctor. Im really lucky if he gets a 2 hour stretch in at a time.

Vanessa
VANESSA

Hey Marisa! Great question! Right when the social smile emerges, the baby can start to follow cues! It is a wonderful time to introduce teaching self soothing skills and a consistent sleeping space. This log and blog is good for learning about schedules:http://www.mybabysleepguide.com/2013/02/average-sleep-charts-by-age.html Also, you are in the peak of the purple crying period. It ends around 16 weeks. http://purplecrying.info/what-is-the-period-of-purple-crying.php

Vanessa
VANESSA

Also, try to lay the baby down quiet yet awake at the first nap of the morning.

An overtired baby has trouble being able to sleep. You are in that cycle. How can we get you and baby more sleep? Offer a nap every 1 hour, maybe even 45 minutes since overtired.

Fourth Trimester
Here are some additional resources:
DVD - teaches soothing and swaddle. happiest baby on the block by Dr. Karp
DVD Dunstan Baby language. helps you "hear" what your baby is telling you.

Vanessa
VANESSA

Consistent sleeping space mentioned above: Zero light in room/use black out shades, use a white noise machine (no music)- make it like the uterus, use a crib, keep room simple, no mobile, be boring at night, use overnight diapers, don't change diapers at night, be calm, even avoid talking and eye contact. Send the message that night time is for sleep (some of this is premature...but since you are in a pinch, it may help moving forward)

Vanessa
VANESSA

It's a great time to move to a crib in their own room.

MARISA

Thank you! Ive tried a lot of this when he does fall asleep its keeping him asleep for longer stretches that is the main problem. That and putting him down at the same time every night, that varies week to week.

Vanessa
VANESSA

Marisa, A typical 8 week old with have one potentially predictable "night time stretch of sleep" from bedtime - 4-6 hours later. We encourage an early bedtime at this age 7pm - 10 pm; the earlier the better

MARISA

Ok Ill try and get him down early hes had a couple 4 hour first stretches

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Toddler sleep
BETH, PARENT OF 6 YEAR OLD, 2 YEAR OLD

My toddler just turned 4 and is a very restless sleeper. Ocassioanly he sleeps through the night but wakes up between 5-6:00. Other nights he comes to our room 1-2 times in the middle of the night and goes right back to bed when we take him back to his room. He doesn’t really nap much anymore so he usually goes to bed around 7:30. We also have a 9 month old who goes to bed at 7:00 and wakes up around 5/6:00 too. Should we push his bedtime back? Would that help him to sleep later in the am? We really have not been getting much sleep at all. Any thoughts or recommendations to help us all sleep? Thanks!
Beth

Vanessa
VANESSA

Hey Beth,
Is he waking at night b/c he needs to pee? Where is he in the potty training journey? Average night time sleep needs are 11-12 hours. Typical bedtime is 6-8pm, depending on evening mood. I would try an ok to wake toddler clock. Set up some sleep rules/manner "eyes closed, mouth quiet, stay in bed until my green light on my clock comes on" hand write it out and have your 4 year old put stickers on the chart/rules. or color on it.
http://www.mybabysleepguide.com/2013/02/average-sleep-charts-by-age.html
I love this sleep averages chart to help you figure out sleep needs.

Your silent returns may not be boring enough - avoid eye contact, touching, placing covers back on him and helping him get cozy in the bed. just point to the bed from the hallway.

Keep me posted on these ideas!

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4 month old
JESSICA, PARENT OF 2 YEAR OLD, 2 YEAR OLD, 2 YEAR OLD, 2 YEAR OLD

Our baby is really struggling to nap during the day and settle at night. She naps maybe 30 min during the day and that's only if we hold her. Lately when we place her down to sleep she wakes up immediately and the whole cycle starts again. Help!

Vanessa
VANESSA

https://www.sleepbabylove.com/4-month-sleep-regression-suck/ This blog post explains it all. The brain advanced. What worked during the 4th trimester is no longer effective. Let's talk about what to do? SURELY! Lay the baby down quiet yet awake at naps and bedtime, teach her how to self soothe, do sleep training and be consistent after training. Here is a great blog post on http://www.weebeedreaming.com/my-blog/sleep-coaching-methods

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10 months old wakes every hour at night
GAYATHRI, PARENT OF 2 YEAR OLD

She never slept through night... Here is her schedule.
Wake up at 9
Breakfast at 9:30 (steamed rice yogurt or finger millet porridge)
Nap at 10:30..mostly 1 hour sometimes half an hour
Lunch at 1:30 ( veggie rice or soup rice)
Nap at 2:30 mostly 1 hour
Snacks at 4:30 ( veggie puree or fruits puree)
Usually I ll give her nap from 5:30 to 6 which I am not doing now. As many told that's why baby wakes at night.
Dinner at 8
Bed time 8:30

I tried almost all skipping evening nap; feeding food till she gags; feeding food half an hour before bed; checked temperature 70-75 ... Used overnight diapers... Fleece pajamas... Nothing works out...plz advice

Vanessa
VANESSA

Hi! Check out this page. Your entire schedule is off of the normal biological rhythms that we expect. http://www.mybabysleepguide.com/2013/02/average-sleep-charts-by-age.html . Try to wake your baby up - as a controlled wake up no later than 7 am

GAYATHRI

Thank you.. I will try that.. but a month before I was trying early bedtime but of no use... Early bedtime early wake up.. she was finding difficult to fall asleep during bedtime...so I extend her bedtime

GAYATHRI

9 month schedule...
Wakes at 6:30
Breakfast at 8
Nap at 9
Lunch at 12
Nap at 1:30
Snacks at 4
Nap at 5-5:30
Bedtime at 7:30
She will go to sleep only at 8 or 8:15... Wakes every half an hour... So I changed the schedule to 9...

Vanessa
VANESSA

It is typical for an 8 month old adjusted aged baby to move to 2 naps. Typically around 9 am and 12:30-1pm. Bedtime is depending on the afternoon mood and can change daily goal is between 6-8pm. 6-8pm bedtime lasts until age 5.

Vanessa
VANESSA

Please check in with your pediatrician regarding gaging at 10 months of age. They may suggest some feeding therapy. Our feeding experts may be able to advise on that topic to help you with improving feeding skills. Often times, when sleep comes together, feeds get easier during the day time

Vanessa
VANESSA

https://www.sleepbabylove.com/4-month-sleep-regression-suck/
As for the waking every 1.5 hours at night. Read this blog post. The brain has advanced. She is asking for you to do something different. It is not typical for this waking pattern at her age. See the sleep averages log: http://www.mybabysleepguide.com/2013/02/average-sleep-charts-by-age.html

Vanessa
VANESSA

Let's talk about how to teach self soothing = sleep training. 2 other keys are being a consistent teacher and laying her down quiet yet awake at bedtime and for naps....otherwise, it feels like a trick when she wakes up and she was in arms of a parent...She is thinking? "WHERE is everyone? WHAAAAA? What happened? WHAAA? Where am I?"

Vanessa
VANESSA

http://www.weebeedreaming.com/my-blog/sleep-coaching-methods This will be a good resource for learning about sleep training methods

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Try to get my baby in a sleep schedule
DREA, PARENT OF 23 MONTH OLD

How do I get my baby to stay up during the day and start sleeping at night

Vanessa
VANESSA

Hi Drea,. The fist 8 weeks it is normal to have day night confusion. Try to rest when your LO is resting and sleep when they sleep. Try to keep your LO awake for only 45 minutes....then offer a nap. This is the time to share cuddles and rest. Leave the chores and cooking and errands for a few more weeks. Check out:. Happiest baby on the block DVD for soothing Methods.

DREA

How do I keep her awake for 45 minutes is that an overall 45?minutes or here and there like keep her up for 5 minutes 8 times?

Vanessa
VANESSA

Usually around 4 weeks and greater they leave the sleepy stage. I meant 45 minutes awake at one time

DREA

How do I keep her up for 45 minutes

Vanessa
VANESSA

Hey Drea, You can not MAKE a 1 week old stay awake for 45 minutes. You can offer naps frequently to prevent overtired state in the baby. I think focus on following your baby's cues and lead about when and how sleep will come and happen is key for the 4 th trimester. google 4th trimester. If you EXPECT anything is that you and baby will sleep in short stretches that are unpredictable for the next 8 weeks.

DREA

Thanks I think i miss understood about the 45 minutes I think you meant at 4 weeks is when they stay awake more sorry again I miss understood and thanks i googled 4 trimester

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Sleep
MARIAH, PARENT OF 2 YEAR OLD

My baby will not slee through the night. She is a preemie five weeks early. When will she start sleeping through the night?

Vanessa
VANESSA

Hi Mariah,
Around 8-10 weeks adjusted you can expect 4-6 hours of solid sleep at the beginning of the night; just after her early bedtime of 7-10pm. Aim for an earlier bedtime within that range.
At this point in your motherhood know to rest when she rests; sleep when she sleeps. Let the laundry pile up and chores wait. Ask for help from friends and family. Your job in the 1st 8 weeks is to prevent overtired baby and mom. Offer sleep every 45 minutes, of awake time. Currently, there is no day or night organization. She may want to party at night and sleep all day. This is totally normal. Go with the flow.
Here are some additional resources:
1. http://www.mybabysleepguide.com/2013/02/average-sleep-charts-by-age.html
2. DVD - teaches soothing and swaddle. happiest baby on the block by Dr. Karp
3. DVD Dunstan Baby language. helps you "hear" what your baby is telling you.